Our Different life styles. (Do we have a free choice?)

“We Live in a society where our choice of clothing is made by the judgement others”

Remember when we were growing up we always used to talk on and on about how we wanted to become a Doctor,Army Officer or the ambitions of a few even exceeded reality where they would revel about the prospect of becoming very rich and just earning money. Well.even though that was pre pubescence, it is quite surprising that even today we aspire to achieve similar things. the main question is why? The answer lies in the way we are formed overtime. but is it really worth to compromise your children’s lifestyles just to make sure the neighbors don’t question your ways?

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We often tend to judge ourselves on the opinions of others

The roots of this cause trace back to our cultural origins, we live in a society blended with the viral epidemic of fundamentalism. if we begin to discuss examples, it would take hours to think of even the most common ones. lets for one tae the story of a common Pakistan woman. what are her original teachings? Dress well, Work on Fairness and also specializing in becoming the perfect house wives. the cause for this goes deeper than the fundamental learning. the social learning also plays a role. woman with such mentality grow up in societies saturated with”RISHTA” aunties and obnoxious mothers who make it their life dream to find the perfect husband for them. hence, in the conservative section of our society which accounts for over 95% of the population can only aspire to be good house wives. if we are exemplifying, lets not forget the men who are under peer pressure from day one to commend good purchasing power as well as good respect in the society.

The preceding examples lead to even worse paradigms, men in society fail to live up to their potential or otherwise even chase their dreams for a change. to simplify such terms, we can take the example of Farhan, an acquaintance fond of painting, in fact incredibly passionate about it. his passion lead to a direct increase in his talent and his workshops showed that he had real potential. but at the age of 27, the bomb of being a perfect citizen drop right on his shoulders. Marriage. to conclude, his marriage as well as the responsibility of taking care of a woman made it impossible for him to even buy a minute to spare for his passion.

three-afghan-refugee-women-and-their-children-walk-in-an-alley-of-a-poor-neighborhood-in-pakistan12-20-2010_7334_l_uA contrast of the difference The Lifestyle Contrast: A village near Liyari : Karachi and the High Way system near Sea Veiw : Karachi

The scenarios is same or women, but there reasons would make a feminist jump in his own grave. it is a lot impossible for a woman to pursue her dreams. her parents expect nothing less than a good husband for their daughters. even the thought of a girl, for example trying to become a model in Lahore would make the Father’s cardiac veins tingle.

We live in a society where a boy can’t even dream of chasing his passion, or even of thinking about taking it as a hobby. although it is different for some parents, here we are talking about the 5%. the percentage of upper class. they have almost a different  style. it is almost as if you enter their household you feel like you have entered an apartment in the Hampton’s. there children drive six figure cars, hangout out in the best of hotels and are pampered with a high influx of Servants.

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Hence, the problem boils down to the conflicting natures of the 5 Percent and the 95 Percent living in the same society. however, the nature of conservatism is vanishing fast. people are adopting to secular lifestyles more and more. Hence, it is the inevitable future that the number Five Percent will increase in the future. yet, this can’t be credited to be a good thing due to the fact that this viral outspread of the upper class will only make the poor poorer. because eventually, lets face it, none of us care about the poor.we may blame the bureaucrats however we are to blame because of our lack of concern to the cause.

JALIL HAMMAD JAVED

11/9/14

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13 thoughts on “Our Different life styles. (Do we have a free choice?)

  1. Maira says:

    So true. We need to start working on ourselves on an individual level. Parents need to encourage their children’s individuality and uniqueness instead of trying to fit them into one standard framework, which ofcourse the society approves of. When these children grow up their sense of decision making, their thinking pattern, all of their actions are dictated by what others would think and will it be ok with the society.
    On the brighter side i think people are becoming more aware of their individuality specially women and hopefully the generations to come will have minds of their own.
    Great job writing this article.

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  2. Desmond says:

    I guess it stems from our nature of conformity. We have the inherent need to be socially accepted within our group. Even in cases where you claimed change coming form the elites, its probably because they are conforming in a larger context to the elites in other countries as well.

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  3. M. Usman Khan says:

    Humans being social animals value the opinion of others, building our image so that others may perceive us in a manner pleasing to our mind. Perhaps its the conflict between the ME and the I that can actually lead to some form social progress.

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