Our Different life styles. (Do we have a free choice?)

“We Live in a society where our choice of clothing is made by the judgement others”

Remember when we were growing up we always used to talk on and on about how we wanted to become a Doctor,Army Officer or the ambitions of a few even exceeded reality where they would revel about the prospect of becoming very rich and just earning money. Well.even though that was pre pubescence, it is quite surprising that even today we aspire to achieve similar things. the main question is why? The answer lies in the way we are formed overtime. but is it really worth to compromise your children’s lifestyles just to make sure the neighbors don’t question your ways?

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We often tend to judge ourselves on the opinions of others

The roots of this cause trace back to our cultural origins, we live in a society blended with the viral epidemic of fundamentalism. if we begin to discuss examples, it would take hours to think of even the most common ones. lets for one tae the story of a common Pakistan woman. what are her original teachings? Dress well, Work on Fairness and also specializing in becoming the perfect house wives. the cause for this goes deeper than the fundamental learning. the social learning also plays a role. woman with such mentality grow up in societies saturated with”RISHTA” aunties and obnoxious mothers who make it their life dream to find the perfect husband for them. hence, in the conservative section of our society which accounts for over 95% of the population can only aspire to be good house wives. if we are exemplifying, lets not forget the men who are under peer pressure from day one to commend good purchasing power as well as good respect in the society.

The preceding examples lead to even worse paradigms, men in society fail to live up to their potential or otherwise even chase their dreams for a change. to simplify such terms, we can take the example of Farhan, an acquaintance fond of painting, in fact incredibly passionate about it. his passion lead to a direct increase in his talent and his workshops showed that he had real potential. but at the age of 27, the bomb of being a perfect citizen drop right on his shoulders. Marriage. to conclude, his marriage as well as the responsibility of taking care of a woman made it impossible for him to even buy a minute to spare for his passion.

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The scenarios is same or women, but there reasons would make a feminist jump in his own grave. it is a lot impossible for a woman to pursue her dreams. her parents expect nothing less than a good husband for their daughters. even the thought of a girl, for example trying to become a model in Lahore would make the Father’s cardiac veins tingle.

We live in a society where a boy can’t even dream of chasing his passion, or even of thinking about taking it as a hobby. although it is different for some parents, here we are talking about the 5%. the percentage of upper class. they have almost a different  style. it is almost as if you enter their household you feel like you have entered an apartment in the Hampton’s. there children drive six figure cars, hangout out in the best of hotels and are pampered with a high influx of Servants.

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Hence, the problem boils down to the conflicting natures of the 5 Percent and the 95 Percent living in the same society. however, the nature of conservatism is vanishing fast. people are adopting to secular lifestyles more and more. Hence, it is the inevitable future that the number Five Percent will increase in the future. yet, this can’t be credited to be a good thing due to the fact that this viral outspread of the upper class will only make the poor poorer. because eventually, lets face it, none of us care about the poor.we may blame the bureaucrats however we are to blame because of our lack of concern to the cause.

JALIL HAMMAD JAVED

11/9/14

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The Key to Happiness ☯

I would define happiness as a state of being entirely satisfied and pleased with yourself and your surroundings. It was only until recently when I started thinking of myself as a “happy” person.  Before that I was always comparing myself to others, holding grudges, trying to be perfect at everything I did, and regretting past mistakes. But recently I learned that the key to being happy is in my own hands. I didn’t have to depend on others for the way I felt about myself. I realized that in order to be happy, I’d have to let go of the past and learn to move on and accept life as it is. Now, whenever I’m in a bad mood, I try to focus on all the positive things in my life, things that bring me happiness. The most important thing to remember is that you have control over your happiness. Surround yourself with relatively optimistic people, listen to upbeat music, express gratitude, find meaning for everything you do, believe in yourself, and savour every single moment. After all, you know what they say, the happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything.

One of the most important things in my life is music. Music is what makes me happy and holds a very special place in my heart. Although it brings me happiness, it has the ability to alter my mood with any given circumstance, which is one of the reasons why I love it so much. I can go from feeling extremely depressed, to a state of great contentment within an instant. Music transports me to different dimensions; it sets me free. Whether I’m listening to it in my car while travelling, in bed before sleeping, at a party while dancing, or at home while cleaning my room, it helps me escape from the real world and just let myself go. It’s a way of expressing my emotions and feelings, and through it, I am able to relate to other people and their experiences. I’ve been listening to music for as long as I can remember. I still have a ton of old CD’s stacked up in my closet, with the artists ranging from Usher, Nelly, and Beyoncé, to Sean Paul, Vanessa Carlton, and The Black Eyes Peas. I even remember buying my very first iPod when it first came out. It brought me so much joy to be an owner of one of the most revolutionary music devices that was ever created. Ever since then, I’ve stored all my greatest tracks right in my iPod or on my phone. And the best part about it was that I could listen to my favorite songs anywhere, anytime! Apart from just listening to music, I like to create it as well. I’ve learned to play the violin and took classes for five years. I love to recreate my favorite songs and play the violin in my free time. It’s a passion for me. Playing the violin makes me feel like I’m amongst some of the greatest artists out there. I’ve even played in orchestras and have won medals for my performances.

As you can see, music is what brings me happiness. It gives me a reason to keep going. Happiness can be achieved anywhere, anytime. It is possible to learn to be happy or relearn as the case may be for many of us these days. You only need to have a fair grasp of the components of what makes a happy life and then include them in yours. All you have to remember is,

“Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.”  – Jim Rohn

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“Create your own happiness” – Maha Barque

Insight of mind

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Hi guys! I am Ali Nawaz. I am a twenty-one year grad student out in the cyber world to make friends. I decided to blog so that people have a better insight about me and my interests which are watching movies and reading.My real passion is movies. Mostly I like thriller, comedy, action or horror movies. After watching I like to dissect it with my friends. Movies are based or adapted from books. This gave birth to my reading interest.

In my early age I started liking animation movies like Charlotte’s Web and the Wizard of Oz. I loved to see the animations and discuss with my mother. Seeing my interest my mother used to bring movies with their counterpart books. All the Harry Potter movies also entered the scene. J.K. Rowling is an excellent writer and the movies differed from her books which was quite annoying at times for me. The books “The Lord of the Rings” and Demons by Dan Brown were different from the movies as well.

I began comparing English and Indian movies which were a copy. Though some movies have done quite well others don’t even show a slightest bit of change in the story line. The recent movie Bang Bang is a 85% copy of a Tom Cruise movie. Some pick up comic scenes or action sequences but guys don’t you see the movies doing big business are not copies but originals. Movies like Avatar, Titanic and Terminator are original. Same goes for 3 Idiots, Jodha Akbar and Don.

Added to that is the fact that parodies hold much more interest to people. Take Om Shanti Om for instance which is a parody of Karz or the Hollywood success Scary Movies which make fun of all the kill trill movies. Now that is great comic stuff.Due to my knowledge, my interest in debating developed. It helped me to build confidence and adopt many special skills. I started off by joining the debating society. Debating was becoming a passion for me day by day.

Hi guys! I am Ali Nawaz. I am a twenty-one year grad student out in the cyber world to make friends. I decided to blog so that people have a better insight about me and my interests which are watching movies and reading.My real passion is movies. Mostly I like thriller, comedy, action or horror movies. After watching I like to dissect it with my friends. Movies are based or adapted from books. This gave birth to my reading interest.

I my early age I started liking animation movies like Charlotte’s Web and the Wizard of Oz. I loved to see the animations and discuss with my mother. Seeing my interest my mother used to bring movies with their counterpart books. All the Harry Potter movies also entered the scene. J.K. Rowling is an excellent writer and the movies differed from her books which was quite annoying at times for me. The books “The Lord of the Rings” and Demons by Dan Brown were different from the movies as well.

I began comparing English and Indian movies which were a copy. Though some movies have done quite well others don’t even show a slightest bit of change in the story line. The recent movie Bang Bang is a 85% copy of a Tom Cruise movie. Some pick up comic scenes or action sequences but guys don’t you see the movies doing big business are not copies but originals. Movies like Avatar, Titanic and Terminator are original. Same goes for 3 Idiots, Jodha Akbar and Don.Added to that is the fact that parodies hold much more interest to people. Take Om Shanti Om for instance which is a parody of Karz or the Hollywood success Scary Movies which make fun of all the kill trill movies. Now that is great comic stuff.

Due to my knowledge, my interest in debating developed. It helped me to build confidence and adopt many special skills. I started off by joining the debating society. Debating was becoming a passion for me day by day.Recently I attended OXIMUN (Oxford International Model United Nation). This was my first and a remarkable experience. In this experience I explore many different people and places. Now I am planning for Harvard Model United Nation. I believe one day there would be change in our society if we raise our voice.

So here I am willing to discuss and shred movies and books with you and some of my experiences in life Boys and girls, this is Ali signing off.

A Journey from Heaven to Hell

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‘The people feel and look the same, like they’ve settled here even though they know there’s something more-something better-just beyond where they are’

Well it has been many years since I’ve shifted to Lahore from Islamabad. The place where I was brought up. The memories of childhood have their own kind of nostalgia. No matter if it’s the past period of a man’s life, it still is part of us. The charm of it can never be forgotten and explained. I used to be a different person. More fun, loving. The world seemed to be place of joy and happiness to me. At that moment, there was nothing to be worried about. I had friends who admired me. My friends made the college life worth it. My town left the biggest impact on me. I got a lot of my personality. As I remember I was always in somebody’s army. Never Alone! I think that was the time, I was me, myself.

Although my hometown might seem boring and confusing to anyone from the outside looking in, it makes perfect sense to me. Sitting at the foothills of Margalla mountains feels great. My town is known for its picturesque nature and peace. The most important thing about the city that I like is its lush green surroundings and clean environment. There is greenery everywhere. On the one hand it also offers visual delight which make the environment healthy. It’s the place where I felt I could be anything. But time flies, here I am well settled and doing fine with my life in LSE. It was hard in the starting but with time I managed. I was a very quiet and silent person when I came to Lahore. As I don’t open up that easily. Now, whenever I look myself in the mirror, I laugh thinking ‘The storm has passed, and I survived. Never thought I could be that strong to fight back.

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I am doing just fine in Lse now. Made friends, enjoy life. As far as my studies are concerned, I think I am a marketing person as I think I have the convincing power to make people believe what I feel. I have volunteered at various places. Specially, for Shaukat khanam twice for raising funds for people who need money for their cancer treatment. Helping needy people gives me satisfaction and makes me feel good about myself.

As part from all these, I like to do activities for myself. I am a good swimmer for which I was nominated to take part in the final competition in Sports Complex Islamabad. Yoga is another exercise that relaxes my mind and soul. I do it for my inner satisfaction. It makes me forget all the tensions for some time. I also like to write, which helps me express my opinion. I have a blog which discuss about the political instability and all problems in general which is faced by common man. I have also written a book for a course which was published. ‘Trails & Tribulations’ was the name of my book. It had different sections discussing various topics and sharing my experience. I prefer writing in my personal diary when I am alone. Traveling is another hobby of mine. Seeing each and every part of the world is so amazing. I have been to Netherland and UK. From which Netherland is beautiful where one can see lesser people whereas cows in more number. I have also seen the northern areas of Pakistan which are extremely delightful. One quality about myself, that is important to me is my passion for wanting to help animals. My fondness for Persian cats is great. Animals are the best companion and a long-lasting friend.

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‘As Humans we long for that authenticity and sense of self. Being able to have some sort of encounter with them is important for our own sense of being’.

 

 

” Living on the edge “

Living on the edge takes nothing more than stepping out of your comfort zone and living your dreams. Unfortunately, a large portion of society struggles with this concept, for they are fearful of losing an unfounded sense of security they have found through building mental boundaries around themselves. Many people search for relief, turning to songs and blogs with messages pertaining to their troubles. Mysterious is what life seems to be and time seems too short for us to enjoy it. Most of us are often told to live life to the fullest but we were never told how to do so. As we grow, we continue to search on how we will make our life worth living. We tend to be adventurous to try to know the world and what we can do to say that our life is worth living. Life offers many challenges but through the love that I received from my family and friends, I become strong enough to face them. Love that I can receive as I live in what makes my life worth living. The opportunity to receive and share it to others really makes my life worth living. Happy moments that I spend with my loved ones also make my life worth living. So as, I’m growing up I’m doing everything that, I love to do and putting effort into it for a valuable result.

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We were put on this earth to do something special with our lives and we should never take that for granted. People that do not do everything to the best of their abilities aren’t only cheating themselves,but also the others around them. because if you don’t you will missed out, so many great opportunities. If you don’t do the best you can in everything than you’ll never know how far you could have gotten. Take a sport for instance, if you don’t practice than you’ll never get any better. Yet if you do put everything you have into that sport you will become one of the best athletes in that field. You can apply that same determination to school work, your job, your marriage, pretty much anything you do in life you should do your best. Not only you will succeed in life, if you do your best, but you even will be happy with yourself.

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I give my all in everything that I do because I know that I may never get a second chance. I believe that trying my hardest in every aspect of my life will help me to be more content with the result of those things. If I try the most that I can and still don’t succeed, I still know that there is no way that I could have put forth more effort in order to alter the outcome of that situation.

Sometimes you don’t realize that how many tomorrows you may have however knowing the Importance of your life and making it count, I decided to achieve everything that I ever wished for, I believe that life should be lived on the edge to live life to its extent.

” I want to stand as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you will see all kinds of things you can’t see from the centre”

          –Kurt Vonneegut

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                                          — Rohit Robert

LSE AFTER SIX.

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While I started writing about my life in LSE hostel, the first thing that came to my mind  was “Everyone is going to think this post is about work, friends, relationships,  assignments, exams, studies and a tough life so no one might bother scrolling down  and reading my post”.

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However, this could not demotivate me from writing about  another life in LSE which most of the students are not aware of and I wanted my  words to make them experience the beauty I have seen in this bachelor’s life                   apart  from the usual boring studious life. Living in a room with four roommates seemed tough to me because of the                    different  routines everyone has, different life styles and different conversation mode.

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This became even tougher when my elder sister left the hostel and I felt myself in a chaos where I was alone, not cared enough anymore and didn’t have much to have fun  except my  books  and  laptop  with  some  good  TV  series.  But life is more than watching TV series and reading books and I realized this when           I  started mingling with people in my hostel.

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It would not be wrong to say that shopping with friends never becomes boring even           if  you go to the same place every day just like I never feel LSE’s liberty shopping trip     on  Wednesday and Saturdays monotonous or boring instead I find new things every    time  from eating gol gappay to window shopping and buying random groceries.

The story will be half told if I don’t mention the beautiful people I am blessed with           who  have once been strangers but now they are more than a family to me.

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On every birthday, the celebrations we do, surprises we plan in hostel with limited  facilities yet every effort to make the birthday girl feel special, telling stories and  laughing about  friends, sharing the family problems it feels like we all share our families,  we share our lives and  share  the  truths  we  live  with. Somewhere  somehow the night at LSE never  completes  without  going  out on the roads we run to catch our classes every day.

But after 6pm, those roads are no more the same; they are calm, so calm that                one can  hear the noise of birds, cats and even leaves falling apart from trees and the         cool breeze  which freshens the breath after a day full of assignments and studies.

These few moments after 6pm take me back in the thought of whom I am, what am I  doing and why am I doing this and makes me prepared for a challenge every day be        it   academic  or  personal  or  anything.  To me, LSE is not just a place to study, it is something more, is a place of peace, a  get together with my young family, a celebration every   night   with my room-mates  and a life in which we figure out a way to be happy no matter how tough things   get, to me LSE after 6pm is a time worth seeing.

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Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night.” ― Edgar Allan Poe, Eleonora